“Married Women Can’t Leave Me Alone—What Should I Do?”
John Mwangi, a 29-year-old bachelor from Nairobi finds himself caught in a situation that most single men might find perplexing. Though he’s yet to settle down, he has increasingly attracted attention from married women in his social circles.
While many might see this as a boost to his confidence, John is troubled by the implications. He wants to settle down with a partner of his own, but the attention from women already in committed relationships is starting to complicate his life.
John is an ambitious young man who has built a solid career in real estate. His charm, confidence, and success have made him quite popular, especially among women. But to his surprise, much of the attention he receives is from women who are already married.
“Everywhere I go, I seem to attract married women. At first, it was flattering, but now it’s just awkward,” John says. “I get invited to dinners, receive late-night calls, and some of these women even suggest meeting secretly. It’s making me uncomfortable.”
The growing attention has caused John to rethink his interactions with women, as he’s afraid that these entanglements might lead to unnecessary drama or even destroy families. More importantly, he’s worried that this attention is distracting him from finding a meaningful relationship with someone who is unattached.
John’s main concern is that he’s stuck in a cycle of unwanted attention that’s difficult to break free from. He’s not looking to get involved in any extramarital affairs, but married women seem drawn to him despite his efforts to keep things respectful and professional.
“It’s not that I’m leading anyone on,” John says. “I try to maintain boundaries, but somehow, I keep finding myself in these situations where I have to turn down advances politely.”
His friends have also noticed the pattern, and some have teased him about it, suggesting he enjoys the attention. But for John, it’s far from fun. He’s worried that his reputation might get damaged, and rumors could spread, affecting both his personal and professional life.
